Acknowledge child after birth

When you acknowledge your child, you become a legal parent. This means that you are then the legal parent of your child. This does not always have to be the biological parent. As a legal parent, you have rights and obligations. For example, you have the right to see your child and you are obligated to care for the child.

Recognition is done at the municipality's civil registry or through a notary public.

Recognition not needed

You do not have to acknowledge your child if you are automatically a legal parent. This is so if:

  • you are the biological mother
  • you are married to the mother
  • You are in a registered partnership with the mother

Note! As a duo mother, you do need to bring the "donor unknown" statement with you when you declare the birth. If you do not do this, you can still acknowledge your child and become a legal parent.

How does it work?

You can acknowledge your child if you are a male 16 years of age or older. You can also acknowledge your child if you are a duo mother.

Furthermore, the following applies:

  • Your child does not yet have a legal father.
  • If your child has 2 parents, they can never be recognized by another.
  • If you are under guardianship, you need permission from the court.
  • If you cannot marry the mother due to consanguinity, you cannot acknowledge the child.
  • You cannot acknowledge a deceased child.
  • If you are the biological father, you cannot later undo the recognition.

What should I do?

You can acknowledge your child after birth at 2 times:

  • at birth registration
  • after the birth declaration

Acknowledge at birth declaration

  • You report the birth of your child within 3 days. You cannot make a declaration on Saturday, Sunday or a generally recognized holiday.
  • You do this at the municipality where your child was born. 
  • You can then acknowledge your child immediately.

If the mother cannot come with you to the municipality, you will need written consent from her to acknowledge your child.

Acknowledging after the birth declaration

  • You and the mother go to the municipality to acknowledge your child. This can be done in any municipality in the Netherlands.
  • If the child you want to acknowledge is 12 years old or older, you need written consent from both the mother and the child. If you do not get permission from both, you can ask the judge for permission. This is only possible if you are the biological parent of your child.
  • If the child you want to acknowledge is 16 years old or older, you will go to the municipality together. The mother does not have to be here.

Requesting parental authority

Recognition does not yet make you the legal representative of your child. To do so, you must first apply for parental authority through Rechtspraak.nl. If you have parental authority, you may make decisions about the upbringing and care of your child. You may also manage your child's assets. You do not have to apply for parental authority if your child was born during your marriage or registered partnership.

What do I need?

If the child was not born in the municipality where you will arrange for recognition, bring a copy of the birth certificate with you

If the mother goes with you to the church:

  • your valid ID
  • valid ID of the mother

If the mother does not go with you to the church:

  • your valid ID
  • written consent of the mother
  • mother's signature on the written consent
  • copy of valid proof of identity mother

Additional required when recognizing child aged 12 to 16

  • written consent of the child
  • copy of valid ID of the child

Additional requirement for recognition of child by paternal mother

  • statement from the donor data artificial insemination foundation (only needed if the donor is anonymous)

Make an appointment

To make an appointment, call 14 0181.

How long does it take?

You will immediately be given an excerpt of the acknowledgement certificate.

Additional information

When acknowledging your first child, you can choose which surname he or she will receive when you file the birth certificate: the mother's name or yours. If you want your child to have your name, the mother must come with you to the municipality. Written consent from the mother is then not sufficient.

If you do not choose, the child will automatically receive the mother's last name. All subsequent children in the family will automatically receive the same last name as your first child.